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Lately, the Lord has been teaching me about perspective and the incredible value it holds in witnessing. I believe this same knowledge can help many Christians in their witnessing. So here it is.

Everyone has their own set of experiences and events in their life that causes them to view the world differently; this is their perspective. This perspective is the filter through which everything passes. Their thoughts, words, and deeds are all chosen based upon this perspective.

Consider the following…

When witnessing to a lesbian a heavy majority of Christians will try to convince her to stop by use of scripture, wisdom, or statistics. Some would try yelling at her about her sin. Some would give her a hug and tell her there’s a better way. Some would just try to be her friend and hope for the best. Although, I do admit these tactics had to have worked sometime for someone they have never worked for me and I’ve never seen them work for anyone else. This is sad because the Word IS Truth, IS Life, IS Freedom. We rack our brains night after night wondering why “they” don’t get it. We pour out our love hoping they will see the light but to no avail. We pray for their eyes to be opened, that they leave their evil ways, that they will turn from temptation. We soon become disillusioned and frustrated with God and our faith because we see no results.

Every man does what is right in his own eyes.
-Proverbs 21:2

Every man, not some, not a few, every single one.

A Different Approach: Seek to understand then to be understood. Ask “Why?”

Q: Ms. Lesbian, why are you a Lesbian?
A: Because I hate men.

Q: Why?
A: Because all men are evil.

Q: I don’t believe that. Why do you think that?
A: My father raped me repeatedly as a child.

Suddenly, it all makes sense. Her conclusion is perfectly valid(wrong but completely valid). The man who created her whom is supposed to raise her, protect her, provide for her, love her, and be willing to die for her did nothing but take her most precious physical treasure in the midst of her innocence.

Note To Men: few of us understand how damaging rape is to a woman. The closest you can get to understanding is by trying to imagine how you would feel if someone castrated you. I know, it doesn’t seem to make sense; it seems completely different, but rape to a woman is this severe, just accept it.

Side Note: I’ve met 12 lesbians. All had been raped; 3 by their father, 5 by another family member, and 4 by a close friend or boyfriend. I doubt this is the statistical norm, but it definitely says something.

Now, with this new information you could attack the root of the problem and attack it strategically. You can rule out discussion of the law(being that it was written by men it will only anger her more). Salvation would be pretty useless as well because she will only relate it to all the other Christians who told her how evil she was. Talk about how she has a Good Father in Heaven. His deep and intimate love for her. The anger He has toward what has happened to her. How He longs to heal her. Discuss evil and the consequences of her father’s decision. Discuss the justice she will have when he is punished. Discuss the great relationships you have with the good men in the church.

This concept can be applied to anyone in witnessing or discipleship. Of course, it will need to be tailored accordingly and you will have to (God forbid…) actually take time to love the person and find out who they are, rather than just shoving a tract in their hand. Who would have thought? Thinking and working are necessary to lead someone to an eternity with the Lord? Naw…

Do not depend solely on your intellect or this new tactic though. Remember…

We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
-Ephesians 6:12

So prayer and fasting are paramount in this task.

The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.
-James 5:16

Now, you can pray effectively. In our example, prayer for healing, love, revelation of the Father, revelation of good and evil would be appropriate. These prayers WILL be answered and it is my experience that they will be answered quickly.

I think you get the point so I’m going to cut it short. I could go on for hours. Take this to prayer and serious consideration. It’s not the only way to witness but certainly a new tool to add to your arsenal.